Nearly all my nearest and dearest friends are miles away from me. i don't see them on a regular basis. Some i see once or twice a year, some once every couple of years and one i haven't actually seen for four or five years. I've moved or they moved but it seems no matter where we are and what is happening in our lives we can still pick up the phone or catch up in person and it was like I'd seen them yesterday.
The friends i have time for, the friends i give my time to any time of day. The friends i know i can count on for an honest opinion, to hear me when i need to talk, to share my secrets and fears. The friends i know i can rock up at the door no matter how long its been and they just go put the kettle on. I love these friends no matter what I'd be there for them.
I have some other friends that i do see regularly or did see regularly but now not so much. nothing has happened just life and time and i don't seem to be bothered by this. It seems too hard to catch up with them and when i do i dunno its just not that fun anymore does that make sense?
I have a friend i want to let go. we don't seem to have much to talk about anymore. when we do catch up i feel i give and give but don't get much back, its way out of balance. I don't rush to check her emails or texts i wait till I'm free. I don't return calls 'cos I'm just not up for the chat. I feel tired after i see her like its a lot of effort. I really can't be bothered with it i feel my time can be better put to use.
Is this wrong or has this relationship served its purpose and its time to move on. Nothing has happened there has been no falling out or anything. Am i being selfish.
Do you let friends go?
Do you stay friends for no reason?
By Bel
Sometimes it just happens. Some friends are for life and some are just passing thru your life because of shared interests or life stages. A few of those who pass thru will become life long friends - but I think many do just slowly drift off. It' s not selfish - it's just human :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Caz, thats how i feel but thought maybe i was alone here. I've lost and made friends along the way but i dont think i've actively let one go before.
ReplyDeletelifes to short! :)
Definitely let people go if they're not the sort you really want to spend time with. We all change and evolve, it's only natural that friendships get left behind... One of my friends assesses her friendships annually and 'spring cleans' those she's not so keen on. Keeps us all on our toes!
ReplyDeleteLol Kate! i like that. maybe i should get some score cards and a rating system too. start getting some of these other "friends" to lift their game :) x
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